Monday, December 31, 2012

Musical Discoveries of the Year

Here are some of the best musical discoveries I've made this year.  These are bands that, for the most part, are not new but were new to me.

I've known Throwing Muses for more than two decades, but I sort of rediscovered them.

OK, so my French Canadian and Acadian (New Brunswick) heritage stills holds some sway over me...

Of all my musical discoveries this year, I consider Elizaveta to be the most amazing. Check out this Russian woman...

I may have known of Elizaveta for more than a year, but if I have, it still seems like yesterday...

Goals for New Year

Improve my archery skills.
Improve my marksmanship.
Lose weight.
Go to that place I've been wanting to go to.

Worst People I've Known

Lists are the kind of thing people come up with at the end of the year.  Last year I gave thanks to people who have helped me in life changing ways.  This year I am listing the worst, lowest, and/or most evil people I have known in life.  I list them in no particular order.  To qualify for being on this list you must have (1) demonstrated a lack of empathy for your fellow humans, (2) engaged in intentionally malicious acts against others, and (3) have no redeeming qualities whatsoever.

Lowest Human Beings I've Known
Each and every one of them a sociopath

No particular order...

Karen Pr.
Mary Sh.
Douglas Le.
Bridget O.
Alan W.
Josiah H.
Jack (John) F.
Bjørn A.
Stefano B.
Michael A.
Michael W.
Robert Cr.
Holly S.
James Ca.
Keith G.
Paula M.
John J.
Cyndy M.

I think I've been on this planet long enough to have run into this many sociopaths.  I've actually met many more than listed here, but some sociopaths have redeeming qualities, those listed here do not.

Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Tuesday, October 30, 2012

Spiteful old hag

What a spiteful old hag Bridget must be.  After all these years she is still sending me virus infested emails.  Sorry, Bridget, you stink like the sore hemorrhoid you are.

Saturday, October 6, 2012

When my time comes...

When my time comes, I hope it comes quickly without time for reflection. We are most happy when we live in blissful ignorance of death. An accident, a bullet, a sudden heart attack... these are far better than knowing the end is near.

Thursday, October 4, 2012

Life is too short to spend it with a stupid mate

Since I've only had relationships with women, I can only speak in the capacity of a straight man. If there is but one important lesson of love that I have learned it is this: never enter into a relationship with a stupid woman (the same is probably true about men, but I lack the experience to know for sure). Here are the draw-backs of relationships with stupid women.

(1) She can easily be manipulated by other men.

(2) Years later she will forget how old you were and start making up stories that you were not just three years older than her, but a whole generation older, that you "made her fall in love with you," and that everything that happened between the two of you was the product of that imagined age difference. Pointing out mathematical reality like, you were born in year X and I was born in year X - 3 would be meaningless to her because, well, because she's so fucking stupid.

(3) Her limited understanding of EVERYTHING will lead her to adapt some simple theory that someone told her and she will try to stuff you into that theory and draw from it a million other non-factual conclusions about you.

(4) Her stupidity will make her think that someone that is attempting to harm her is attempting to help her (remember point (1) above).

(5) She will never take responsibility for her own decisions.

So, my advice to men is to NOT pursue that stupid woman and wait until you find a truly intelligent woman. Brains make a very big difference.

Life is short

My greatest regret in life is that I did a poor job at choosing friends, especially when I was young.  The many stab wounds in my back have thickened my skin and I have learned so much I wish I always had known.  I can now spot a sociopath from a mile away, identify a reptile in an instant, and smell a parasite from across the street.

Sunday, July 15, 2012

Saturday, July 14, 2012

Creeps from childhood...

Sometimes I think the most pathetic people that have been a part of my life are the back biters that were my friends when I was young.  Most of my friends of youth have spent their entire lives within but a few miles of where they were born.  I haven't.  In fact, I've lived in more places than most people have visited.  Each place I've lived has changed me a bit.  Additionally, I've seen things in this world that few Americans have seen.  I've seen the consequences of war.  I've seen (and lived in) abject poverty.  I've nearly died several times.  Everything I have in life has been a great struggle.  I even had to fight to get my wife and daughter into the United States.  Yet, over the years, this "friends" of youth have done what they can to bring me down and to judge me by the mistakes I made as a young person, a person I am no longer.

I can see why these people don't understand that people can change profoundly.  I think an important ingredient in change involves going out into the world and fighting to exist.  They haven't done these things.  The most pathetic of all is an ex-girlfriend.  She never had to struggle in life.  Yet, she found plenty of time to attack someone she doesn't even know.  I think it runs in her family.  Her father was an asshole too.

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

Look at an ugly woman through the beer goggles of deception

Have you ever met someone that, after many years, you looked back and wondered how you could have ever found that person attractive?  Many times I've wondered how it was that I fell for a sociopath named Bridget.

Bridget was not good looking.  At that time in my life I was in a relationship that repeatedly extinguished every dream I had.  When Bridget came into my life, I saw her as the opposite of the person with whom I was bound.  Bridget, it was later revealed, was an infiltrator sent to spy on a political organization that I was a member of.  Had I known that, back then, there never would have been any connection between myself and this subhuman waste of skin.

I was aware of her profound physical ugliness, but there was something about her personality and her professed interests that drew me in and overcame her plainness.    My estimation of the inner Bridget became a kind of beer goggles, masking her true presentation.  I was willing to ignore her far-too-pale skin, her straw hair, her hideous nose, and her boring eyes.

Before that point, I didn't know what a sociopath really was.  Her fake persona was a professional act.  I was tricked.  Later I discovered that she was a liar, a snitch, a defamer, and an amoral hollow shell of a person.  It is a hard lesson I learned.  I am now far more cautious of people that drop into my life.

Friday, May 11, 2012

Heading Out to the West Coast

Haven't been on the West Coast in more than 10 years. It's time.

Thursday, May 3, 2012

Sunday, April 29, 2012

FEMEN "Topless Warriors" documentary w/ English subtitles

Use the "CC" (Closed Captioning) button to see the English subtitles...

Free Pussy Riot

Pussy Riot is a Russian band in the tradition of the Riot Grrl genre.  Their crime was to perform an anti-Putin song in a Russian Cathedral.  They current sit in jail, political prisoners of the fascist Putin Regime.

Saturday, April 21, 2012

Je ne t'aime plus

Defense Intelligence Agency Online Harassment Program

Interesting, word is getting out about the Defense Intelligence Agency's online harassment program:

  USA Today alleges harassment scheme

Saturday, March 31, 2012

What would Jack Say?

Generally I do not support laws like this, but it would be interesting to see what effect it would have on Jack Feldhaus' favorite hobby.

Arizona law would criminalize being lewd or annoying on the Internet

Sunday, March 25, 2012

Nothing of significance

Following up on my previous post, because of the resistance of my ex-wife, nothing of significance ever happened in our relationship when both of us were present. If I were to list all of the great adventures of my life, she was not present for any of them. Even during the span of our marriage, nothing of great importance in my life happened when we were together. We traveled to no exotic places together, he had no children, none of our conversations enlightened me... I had several psychological problems when I was young, but she played no role in helping me with any of them. The fact is, she did not improve my life in any way. Quite the contrary, she merely diminished my life.

If I had stayed with her, I would never have visited England, France, El Salvador, Guatemala, Honduras, or Puerto Rico. Had I stayed with her, I would never have learned the Spanish language. Had I stayed with her, I would have been childless. The greatest adventures of my life would never have taken place, had I stayed with her. Truly, had I stayed with her, I would never have lived.

Without her, I have become much more than I was. I have overcome all of my significant defects. My world, without her, is much bigger than it ever was with her. She was the best loss I ever had.

A Friendship I'm Glad I Lost

Life is good. If I could go back in time and relive my life, no doubt I would avoid a lot of the mistakes I have made, but I wouldn't choose to change how things turned out. There are many people I miss. Some are no longer part of my life because of mistakes I made. I am no longer part of the lives of some people because of mistakes they made. Some people simply drifted away and others I simply drifted away from.

When I was young, I liked Frank Sinatra's song, “My Way.” Honestlly, at this point in my life, I do not see how anyone, other than a sociopath or an egotist, could like that song. Doing things one's own way is often unwise, for we make mistakes. When one does something wrong, should one “stand tall”, as the song says, or should one ask for forgiveness? I've made many mistakes. I have asked for forgiveness along the way. In some cases, it was wise to ask for forgiveness, but in other cases it was not. There are people so filled with hate that the do not deserve an apology. There are people who have misinterpreted intent and, therefore, invented or exagerated wrongs. These people do not deserve apologies, for when they act to punish based on their false understanding of alleged wrongs, they commit greater crimes in response than the woes they, themselves, have suffered and thus they owe an apology to those whom they have accused. But, as for the song, no life is so simple as to deserve the song “My Way.” As for myself, I have not sought apologies from those that have wronged me. For the most part, I have simply forgiven them and moved on.

Nevertheless, there are people I miss. Some I will reconnect with, in time, if the universe grants me such opportunity, but there are others whom I prefer to miss than to know again. My ex-wife is in that category, for I really do not believe that the person I miss still exists. I believe she is someone else now, someone I would not like.

It was a long path reaching that conclusion. I think I have never loved anyone, except my daughter, more than her. When that love was young, there was nothing I would not have done for her. When we finally got married, though, I discovered that there was little she would do for me, beyond simply being a wife. I had dreamed my entire youth of traveling and exploring the world. I thought when we married, we would do this together, but it turned out entirely the opposite. She had no adventurous spirit. She was little better than an anchor. Every attempt I made at enjoying life, at traveling, and at engaging in the larger world was resisted and crushed by her.

I had always wanted to visit Nova Scotia, the land of one branch of my ancestors. I went on a road trip with her. We got within about 20 miles of Nova Scotia, but her whining and complaining caused me to turn around. I had an opportunity to work for a year in Japan (and bring her with me), but she whined and complained until I turned it down. I became involved in solidarity movements and had an opportunity to go to Nicaragua to work with the Sandinistas, but she refused to let me go. We had nearly zero vacations, but when we did go somewhere, she did nothing but complain and fight.

I remember the point when I realized that she was not for me. We drove down to San Felipe, in BC, Mexico to camp along the Gulf of California. On the way back, crossing into California at Mexicali, while waiting in the line at the border, a young boy jumped out and began washing our windshield. I didn't want him to do it, but I couldn't get him to stop. I knew that I had to give him 25 cents or he might dent my car, so I handed him a quarter (not even enough money to buy candy). My ex-wife was enraged that I waste our money on that little boy. We were two software engineers with no children, making plenty of money, and she was livid over 25 cents. We fought the whole way back to Los Angeles about it. I could not believe I was married to someone who could hate so much over so little.

We spent two years living on opposite coasts because she refused to move until I could find her a job. No one in the United States finds a job for someone else. You must find your own job. I spent two years alone, living most of the time in a small room rented in one house or another, sleep on a mat on the floor, because of this. I stayed loyal to her during that time, but my resentment grew daily. I could not spend money on making myself more comfortable or she would flip out.

I remember at that time buying a small compact CD player (they were new technology at that time), so that I could listen to music to take away the loneliness (I don't watch TV). In time, I also bought a small self amplified speaker to plug into it so I could listen without headphones. When she discovered this, she haranged me endlessly about how I was wasting our money. I could not even have such a small comfort without her insults.

Dreaming of traveling, I one day purchased a reporter's jacket from Banana Republic. I am someone that spends next to nothing on clothes, so this was not a case of being a clothing snob. The jacket had many pockets, where I could put a camera, some note books, documents, etc. One day I went into the closet because I wanted to wear my reporter's jacket. I couldn't find it. I asked her what happened to it. She had returned it to the store to get the money back (my money). I was speechless. It only cost about $60.00. It was my money.

When we went to a hotel, I had to hide her in the car, get the room key, drop her off near the hotel, and then go to the room alone so she could sneak in a few minutes later. Why? I had to do this because she didn't want us to pay for two people to stay, just one. This meant we had to be quiet so they wouldn't know there were two of us there.

I could go on an on, but some of the things I would have to list would involve exposing illegal things she did, and I don't want to do that to her. Living with her was like living as a refugee while having absolutely no reason for suffering that way. She was robbing me of my youth.

When I married her, I knew she was unable to have children. Basically, by marrying her, I was giving up the opportunity to be a father. That was quite a sacrifice. Now that I have a different wife and my own daughter, I know that had I stayed with her, I would not have fulfilled what I was created to be, a father. I would never have fulfilled my nature if we stayed together.

One dream she did successfully kill was my dream to become a philosophy professor. I had studied philosophy part-time when we were together. Having earned my first degree in Computer Science, I decided I would earn my next in Philsophy. She would harass me endlessly about spending some of my time reading and doing my homework. To her, it was abusive of me to spend some time learing rather than focusing only on her. I did eventually get my first degree in Philosophy, but only after we divorced and by then he had delayed the process so long, it became impractical to seek a higher degree.

Despite all of this, after we divorced, I tried to stay her friend. I would have loved to have kept that friendship going, forever. After all, we went to college together and we had been together for 10 years when we broke up. That's a long time. I thought our friendship was going well for four years after our breakup, but there were many things she was hiding from me and now I suspect she was actually sabotaging my life during that period. I have strong reasons to suspect that, but back then I was clueless for I thought she was a good person.

We had a conversation in April of 1996 by telephone. In that conversation she informed me that she was going to remarry. I told her I didn't want to know who her new husband was, at least not then, for I needed some time to absorb that news. She did not tell me who he is. However, she took the opportunity to insult me on several levels during that conversation. More importantly, she let on that she had secretly befriended an enemy of mine, someone who had slandered me. That conversation made me step back and rethink my friendship with her. It seemed that she may have not been a friend afterall. She may have become a secret enemy. I couldn't be sure, but it seemed unwise to continue being friends if I did not know. I sent her an email telling her how I felt emotionally at that time, in terms of regretting our breakup (I no longer regret it) and that I thought it was better, given that she was marrying, to not communicate again, at least until I was over it, but I did not tell her the real reason for deciding to cut things off – the fact that I no longer trusted her.

It was not until 13 years after this conversation that I bothered to find out who she married. I did a little research in 2009 and found out who he was. That little piece of information strung together a lot of puzzle pieces I had missed, relating not only to the period of our marriage and the period after our marriage when we were friends, but more importantly to a long period of online harassment and stalking I experienced. I also discovered that my anonymous stalkers knew who her husband was long before I did.

Once I knew about this connection, it became easy to determine who my harassers were and what her online identity was. I warned my family to not share any information about me with her or her family. What I have uncovered has convinced me that cutting off my friendship with her was one of the best decisions I ever made. It has also precluded any chance at being friends again. There is no way I would consider any kind of friendship with her again. My only regret, in her case, is that I ever wasted even a second of my life with her.